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Fawning and the Machinery of Capitalism
Stephen Hanmer D’Elia Stephen Hanmer D’Elia

Fawning and the Machinery of Capitalism

In a system that punishes disruption and prizes obedience, fawning becomes the survival response that appears least dangerous and most useful. Once we name it, a thin space opens between reflex and choice — the first opening toward freedom.

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Attachment and the Fragility of This American Moment
Olga Kolgusheva Olga Kolgusheva

Attachment and the Fragility of This American Moment

Attachment lives not only in families but in nations, shaping how we trust, withdraw, or hope together. What breaks in us becomes what breaks in our systems — and what we mend in ourselves becomes the ground for collective repair.

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The Politics of Fawning: The Instinct that Devours Integrity
Olga Kolgusheva Olga Kolgusheva

The Politics of Fawning: The Instinct that Devours Integrity

Fawning starts as the body’s instinctive choreography for safety, a quiet shrinking meant to keep the peace. But when that same reflex shapes our institutions, appeasement becomes policy and the architecture of democracy begins to hollow from within.

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Podcast: Connection, Safety and Attachment
Stephen Hanmer D’Elia Stephen Hanmer D’Elia

Podcast: Connection, Safety and Attachment

Discussion on how connection, safety, and the nervous system shape attachment in all aspects of our lives, from the individual, to the dyad, to the community and even systems at large.

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When Empathy is Not Enough
Olga Kolgusheva Olga Kolgusheva

When Empathy is Not Enough

When empathy is asked to do the work of justice, politics, or systems, it falters—centering the feeler, not the one in need, and mistaking feeling for action.

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The Heart of Parenting
Stephen Hanmer D’Elia Stephen Hanmer D’Elia

The Heart of Parenting

Play, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy create the ground for relationships that deepen trust and mutual understanding.

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7 ways to connect with a young person
Stephen Hanmer D’Elia Stephen Hanmer D’Elia

7 ways to connect with a young person

Seven relational lenses—rooted in the perspectives of young people and informed by decades of practice—offer ways to build trust, resonance, and real connection.

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